Relationships are messy. Emotions run high, words can cut deep, and sometimes, even the strongest bonds hit breaking points.
For many married couples, separation or divorce feels like the end. But in some cases, it’s just a pause. A painful, necessary moment of reflection that can lead to healing and a fresh start.
That’s what happened with Kenyan gospel power couple DJ Mo and Size 8. In August 2024, they shocked fans when they went their separate ways after over a decade together.
There were misunderstandings, pain, and a lot of silence. But months later, they found their way back to each other, not because it was easy, but because they were willing to put in the work.
Their story holds real-life lessons for anyone trying to rekindle love after a breakup. If you’re in that space, wondering if it’s too late, or whether your person could still be “your person”, read on.
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Keep the communication lines open
Even during their separation, DJ Mo and Size 8 kept in touch, primarily for their children’s sake. This ongoing communication laid the groundwork for their eventual reconciliation.
Mo used visits to see their kids as opportunities to reconnect with Size 8, expressing his feelings and reminding her of their shared bond.
Soon enough, what started as co-parenting turned into slow, careful conversations about each other.
For you, that might mean a simple text or checking in about mutual responsibilities. Keep it calm, kind, and open-ended.
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Take time to reflect
Mo admitted that the space away gave him clarity. He realised the ‘freedom’ he thought he needed didn’t compare to the comfort of family, to having Size 8 by his side. That shift in mindset only came because of distance and self-reflection.
After a breakup, it’s easy to react fast, to beg, chase, or shut down. But taking time to reflect on what matters, what went wrong, and how you contributed helps you approach the situation with maturity. Rebuilding love starts with understanding yourself.
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Be honest and address what broke you
When Mo and Size 8 started talking again, they didn’t pretend everything was perfect. They got real about the issues that caused the fallout. They talked about their faults, the tension, and what needed to change.
Honesty is hard, but necessary. If you’re trying to win back your partner, don’t sweep the mess under the carpet. Say the hard things.
Ask the tough questions. Owning your part of the breakdown doesn’t make you weak; it shows growth and opens the door for real healing.
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Show up consistently
It wasn’t one text or one conversation that brought Size 8 back; it was DJ Mo’s consistent presence. He kept showing up. Not with big moves, but steady ones. His actions spoke louder than words.
If you want your partner to believe you’ve changed or that things can be different, you have to prove it with actions. Not promises.
Whether it’s checking in, making peace with their friends or family, or simply being there in small ways, consistency builds trust.
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Give them time
Size 8 admitted she needed time. At first, she wasn’t ready to forgive or forget. But over time, her heart softened. She remembered the good, missed his presence, and began to consider the possibility of a second chance.
That’s a reminder that reconciliation is not a sprint. Your partner may still be processing. Give them time and space without pressuring them. Love that lasts isn’t forced; it’s chosen, over and over again.
Not every breakup ends in a reunion. But if the love is still there, and both of you are willing to grow, reconcile, and rebuild, there’s hope.
DJ Mo and Size 8’s story is proof that relationships can recover from hard seasons, but only through honesty, effort, patience, and grace.
